Expectations

Expectation is Hope Alive. That means when you are not being expectant you are hopeless and when you are hopeless you are helpless. This is because whatever you don't expect, you can't experience. The door doesn't close on a man with expectations. Know that things expected have not happened does not mean they will not happen, delay is not denial.

A soldier loses a battle yet fights again.
A football team loses in matches yet plays again.
What about boxers? They have comebacks.

When you look back and it seems there's nothing good the year has brought for you, encourage yourself for a living dog is better than a dead lion.

TRAPPED

Our hearts are like the ocean blue enclosing life's ordeal in bubbles of reality – love, laughter, difficulties, worry, fear...

Faced with the latter more often than naught; we are left with one decision - which bubble stays but as difficult as it may seem, it's our choice to make.

Hope, like a bruised reed may seem frail but it's hard to kill as the presence of life is the currency for hope.

If you lose hope, you've lost everything as there's hope for a tree if cut down, at the scent of water, it will bud again.

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9 Secrets from a 73-Year Marriage

 After 73 years of marriage, 94-year old Barbara Cooper knows how to get through matrimony's rough patches. The author of Fall in Love for Life shares her hard-earned wisdom. By Holly Corbett, REDBOOK.

On making time to make love
"I don't understand couples who say they are too busy or too tired to sleep together. Unless they are building roads all day or running a multi-national corporation, I expect they have just lost sight of priorities. If you wish to stay connected and happy in your marriage, my advice to you is to never be too tired or too busy to feel love for your partner. When your life is nearly over, you will regret it if you look back and recall too many nights when you made excuses instead of making love."

An Irrational Love of Reason

So the neuroscientists and daydreaming poets are in agreement: if you’re serious about solving problems and creating new things, stop thinking so hard and let your mind wander more freely.
But it’s not exactly a popular message, at least in modern Western society.
We take enormous pride in our intellectual accomplishments, and venerate those who are reputed to be ‘great thinkers’. Children are taught to ‘study hard’ – furrowed brows are praised and rewarded, while daydreamers are rebuked for staring out the window.
When applying ourselves to the pressing problems of business, science, education, politics and the environment, the unspoken assumption is that we need more thinking – not less.
If we consider someone’s point of view or behaviour unacceptable, we say they are ‘irrational’ or ‘unreasonable’.

My Love message to him.

Baby, you know I don't grab for something just because it looks appealing. My heart went for you so fast, honestly it left me breathless, now i realize somethings, some right things might come easy but they should never come without impact. Guy you are really special.

Look for a life and not a man...to all the ladies

Look for a life and not a man, because the man can go tomorrow but life continues. Live happy! Don't make him your happiness, nor your life, he is not a God. He can promise and fail.

What you want...what you get.

As one keep leaving, life becomes more interesting. For some it becomes more complicated. This is because some don't know what they really want, some know what they want but don't know how to go for it. Even though what we get is not what we want and what we want we don't get, there's need to make what we get what we want. Nevertheless don't quit working and walking towards that you want.

Sometimes...

We can get comfortable with people and that's what causes the problems. Most times you are happy until someone comes along and shows you something different.

SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE

"You came here to spend the whole day with me and you expect us to just sit and stare at each other? I love you and i want to prove that to you....that's why you're my girlfriend".

I'm sure a lot of ladies are familiar with these lines.......

The human body is a gift from a mother and father with a unique identity marking every cell. Human sexuality is our capacity as whole persons to enter into love - giving, life - giving union in and through the body. To attempt to give oneself bodily in sexual intercourse before there is a permanent commitment of marriage undercuts the very meaning of sexuality and body.
One doesn't take a precious gift, present it to someone,

 and

How can one balance this emotional level?

"There is an optimal emotion level in motivating attitude change; if there is not enough motivation an attitude will not change; if the emotional appeal is overdone, the motivation can be paralyzed thereby preventing attitude change..."
                                               How can one balance this emotional level?

The Power of Agreement

Did you know that the place of agreement is the place of power? This is especially true in our marriages. Envy and strife result in confusion and the lack of power but agreement will actually multiply the power in your marriage and help protect it.
Amos 3:3 ask the question, "How can two walk together except they be agreed?" Matthew 18:19 states. "If two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them..." Matthew 12:25 states, "A house divided against itself shall not stand". Deuteronomy 32:30 declares, " One can chase a thousand, and two can put ten thousand to flight."

The Portrait of a Woman

Always having an idea
Always saying "I'll do it"
Sees an answer for every problem
Always saying "I can"
Walks gracefully and cheerfully
Uttering words seasoned with love
Feet that brings good tidings
Publishes peace and salvation

Princess I O

Songs we Sing

My dear friends, Don't forget to Remember that The Blessings of Abraham are all yours says The word of The Lord. It's your inheritance as Citizens of the kingdom. I employ you to observe The Law of Confession, keep saying it you are the head and not the tail, There is a King in you, you are Coming strong, you are not a nobody you are somebody, This is just the beginning, let the world know You've got somethings, yes you've got somebody and then let The Word do the work. Better Speak Life to your spirit Right now, keep saying it you are Healed with all Gravitas believing the word you speak. It works Miracles. Having done that you will be Happy being you, Wailing to Dancing with Beautiful feet as he keeps Restoring the Years your sowed in tears. He is the Lamb, He is the Lion and we sing with the Angles;You are holy.

Clinging

Life is a journey. We walk through the dark paths, even the darkest paths as we my see it; through the day we come face to face with desert so dry, valleys dark and deep, ups and downs, but it doesn't erase purpose. So in the midst of it all, we still have to see ourselves the way God sees us. We see failure, he sees victory. We see where we are, he sees where we should be. Hold on, keep on moving. Weeping endures only for a night. As a human it seems difficult holding on especially waiting for love, but we just have to cling to his love, God's love.

for if we hop for what we do not yet have,

we wait for it patiently...Rom 8;25.

Why sit at ease?

Why sit at ease?
Why enjoy unsatisfactory satisfaction?
Why dwell in the tent of unfulfillment?

A long time ago, the sun vexed out its make, the day had on multicoloured shirt, the hours took their time to count. Then in those days, the lines on faces we smooth, babies grew into adults, milk was foregone and solid food was the need of the hour.

Why do people always do this..?

Claim not to be at fault when their relationship starts becoming rough? They deny they've ever done something wrong. Why can't people just take responsibility for their mistakes and move on. You, me, everybody, we all do it. Is it that they are just afraid to admit a guilt, because they see it as a sign of weakness or what? But does it really matter, we all have our weaknesses and life is about making mistakes but making our relationships better and moving on is what matters.

It's called the expression of approval...

Potency of Praise
It's called the expression of approval or admiration for someone or something. Synonymous to commendation, eulogy, laudation. Another call it Praise.

Praise is one of the most potent forces on this earth. It is a supernatural force. Seen a musician  praise a billionaire, millionaire or thousandnaire? He is blessed by that man after singing loud his good deeds or his good names. If praise can move someone you love not in your favour how much more someone you love.

... that one person who has been standing by you all along.

Sometimes in life, they are really our bonds formed that can never be broken. Sometimes you'll really can't find that one person who will stand by you no matter what. But there's also the chance that the one person you can count on for a life time, the one person who knows you better than you know yourself, the one person you've been searching for is that one person who has been standing by you all along.

Success Purpose

"Life without purpose is as good as dead" Know that everyman is born with a purpose. It's when you understand it, run with this plan then will you move into a future and a hope.

To be successful in life is not a thing of luck. A great Bishop once said "Success is not arriving at the peak overnight; it is making continuous progress. Success is not a destination, but an adventure which is accessible to all who dare to venture"

Therefore you need to locate the facts of life to be a highflyer, standing out among your equals. To be a resounding success, seek to obtain what makes it work and apply them. Some areas might require your change in character, habit or attitude. Until you do what you are expected to do, success will keep staring from afar.

Diligence is a key that fuels success. It is impossible to see success without diligence. You need to pour yourself into what you are doing. Take it one step after the other and you will get there.

Embrace her...She calls

Do you not know? Have you not heard? Even the babes and sucklings, they understand. Yet on deaf ears. The days go by, only the wise can ride to rise. Wisdom embrace Wisdom. It is profitable to direct. She is more precious than silver, nothing you desire can compare with her. Do not forsake her, she will protect you. Love her and she will watch over you. Cherish her and she will exalt you. Embrace her and she will honor you. She will save you, but you have to listen. Let him that has ear hear that all is vanity that is vanity. Pleasure is vain but merry while you can knowing that there's time for everything. Be wise!

souvenirs

"Who would give their life for a life? Those are the people you want to invest your life in. Those are the ones you need to show your appreciation for now, while you still can. They are irreplaceable. When they are gone you'll realize that some of the things you are striving for now will seem empty then. Some of the things you are upset over now will seem insignificant then. So squeeze the most out of every moment. Create memories you'll treasure. Be wise; build your life around those who matter and those that value you."

Fear of Failure or Criticism

They can wage a war against you, ground you, hinder you from moving forward or taking that step. For you to succeed, you must fail. Don't fear failure unless you wont value your success. It takes courage to step forward. If you fail, stand up. Fail, fail, try, try, try. If you don't start, you can't get somewhere. "Failure is only an event, not a person". What matters most is what you make out of it. Keep in mind that there's a reason for every delay.

Vision

Vision a prompter. It prompts one to move forward. Lack of vision is the beginning of a man's failure. Many hast lost theirs, burying it with the past. Why? When it ought to prompt you to forget the past and take the challenges of today. The past is the onset of the future, when it's gone, it's gone. Give life everything it wants if not you can't make it.

O.C.J

I LOVE HIM SO

It isn't the gait, neither is it the build
It isn't even the weight , nor is it the hold
It is something about him, the way he smiles and suddenly his whole face is lit up.
The sound of his laughter, reading down inside and exhuming feelings.
The beauty of his eyes, as they stare right into my heart.
The touch of his hands, taking you into a world of sweet dreams.
It's the character.
Something about the way he keeps you away yet keeps you so close.
Something about the way he talks.
Quietly and calmly with a voice that sends butterflies fluttering below.
Yeah.. and well...something
Just that something about his candour
And you wonder how someone could be so frank
Yet so charming.

Please don't...

...Expect another person to change your life for you or change you to become a better you. They can help but you make the change. Total dependency can bring about disappointment inversely causing stress.
...Another is expecting others to read your mind when you haven't taken the time to spell out your expectations.
   These causes stress and strife, resentment and inhealthy relationships. Don't blame somebody for not doing something they didn't know you wanted them to do. And quit expecting people to become who you want them to be in order to make you happy.
Happy New Month

YOU ARE...YOUR THOUGHTs

What you think you are.
It really pays to watch closely what and how you think;
What you think about yourself, What you think about the world, What you think about others, What you think about your prospects in life. Everything you think has an impact on the kind of person you become. Sometimes all it takes is a word, a phrase or A THOUGHT planted in someone's mind to change his or her whole life...Just like the day you gave your life to Christ, something tangible must have dropped in your mind and convinced your heart to take that step. No wonder Frank Outlaw quotes "Watch your thoughts they become words, watch your words they become action, watch your action they becomes habits, watch your habits they become character, watch your character for it becomes your destiny".

These Things...

Love will give you access to the best
Purity will make you outstanding
Meekness will give you inheritance on earth
Joy will keep your soul free from strife
Happiness will keep you younger
Patience will give you your heart desires
Obedience will give you long days
Humility will lift you
               Harness them and they will enhance you
           Garnish them with Wisdom, Discipline and Diligence

SEEK!

Search out a matter. They are mostly hidden
I mean matters regarding success.
Success doesn't just happen.
They are secrets, secrets to success.
Did THE WORD not say SEEK?
Hunger and thirst to search.
Until then will you find.

"there's more to life than cold ambition, much more"

One just keep living not knowing you care or how much you care about certain things. And that is as long you have a good job that takes care of your bills, friends that keeps cheering you, when you have almost everything if not everything. In a moment that changes and makes you change. It could be the death of a loved on, or an experience that brought you face to face with death but you made it out. Then you realize that we are only living on the surface. You look around, the coolness, the quietness, the beauty of all you have, your mansion painstakingly assembled, leather and blond wood and clean lines of metal, the tiles. You think of how you are living, enjoying the single-hood good  life you are living but now fixed with another thought that "there's more to life than cold ambition, much more".

A time comes when you start needing more than you have and can get, much more. Something money cannot buy, something just you cannot provide for yourself, a vacuum you can't just fill by yourself leaving you with the feeling that you are missing so much. May be you didn't see it before but all of a sudden you are realizing it. Realizing what? "you need a companion". It's a switch but you can do it. just think about it. You'll think you are being enough all by yourself, not wanting to alter everything abruptly. You would be shaken but you can't just get past it and go for much more.

The girl-child

On her way back from work late Friday night along a lonely path brought her to a view of a female child of about five years old in front of a noisy and crowded bar, girls and boys having fun on a Friday night. Though being late at night and darkness covering the face of the earth her age could be ascertained but she was wearing a low hair cut, dressed in a short, a white slippers and a white top with a folder piece of cloth on her waist. She was not hidden, she was dancing with every effort to ensure her waist was shaking as she was dancing and looking at her back side to see if her behind was dancing along with her. From all indication she was interested in the activity going on there and was dancing to the rhythm slamming and jamming at the inside. Then she looked around to figure out which residence the girl must have come out from, she sighed in confusion  because all the houses were fenced with big gates and guards at every gate, houses for the rich. Certainly she cannot be from any of these houses. Still looking she saw a wooden shop just behind the noisy and crowded bar. Definitely that's where she is from and the piece of cloth round her waist for carrying the baby with the woman inside the shop. Then she drove by.

Then I ask, why would a female child be out that late dancing and twisting her waist at that very spot and at that very time of the night and her mother is just close by? Is it the carelessness of the mother or the foolishness of the child. Did they not say charity begins at home? Even if she is not her mother but her guardian does she not know she's being exposed to child abuse. Each day the society tries to resolve issues facing the girl-child. Different NGO campaigning from one secondary school to another. The training does not start at the adolescent age, it starts from the childhood age. Protect her from being in vulnerable situations. Parents can actually spend less but give much by inculcating moral values in your children. All it will take is a little of your time and divine direction. "Therefore wisdom is profitable to direct, get wisdom. And in all they getting, get understanding". It's is not by power (beating) or by might.

What you think!

What you think about yourself, what you think about the world, what you think about others, what you think about prospects in life. Everything you think about has impact on the kind of person you become. Sometimes all it takes is a word, a phrase or a thought planted in someone's mind to change his whole life.
"Just like the day you gave your life to Christ, something tangible must have dropped in your mind and you got convinced in your heart to take a bold step".
It really pays to watch closely what and how you think. No wonder Frank Outlaw writes:
"Watch your thoughts, they become words
Watch your actions, they become habits
Watch your habits, they become character
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny."

"It's sad that the people we love the most are often the target of our hurtful words. but even when we feel we've been provoked, we have a choice. Will we respond in anger or in kindness?"

Moment of Truth

Atimes the one we call friend is not really a friend. Not because he is not good enough to be a friend but because he just doesn't fit that definition of friend. Friendship is a two way traffic. One floods the action the other receives and reciprocates. One doesn't always sit at the receiving end. Two or more people filling each others needs,being there for each other, cheering each other. It's a mutual phenomena (Symbiosis). Know you can't expect to receive what you can't give. Though I wonder how some people keep giving even when it is not reciprocated: special heart.

Then comes the moment of truth when you ask yourself: Why do I call him friend?
You refer to him as friend because you know that he wants the best for you. You confide in him because you trust him. Whenever you call he responds. When you need a shoulder, he gives you both to lean on. Truely he is a friend, but can he say that of you. Do you listen to him or do you only want him to listen to you. Do you want to know what's in his mind or do you only want to tell him what's on your mind? Is that how your relationship with God is?

Anger

"Be quick to hear

Slow to speak

Slow to anger"

It characterizes every human being. It's an emotion that involves strong uncomfortable and emotional response. It has the tendency of leading to increased heart rate and blood pressure. Everything about it speaks more harm than good especially when it is given physiological response other than facial expression and body language. Which means when not controlled, it causes more harm than good. Whether "hasty and sudden anger", "settled and deliberate", or "dispositional" according to psycologists and sociologists, Anger is Anger. The only thing that makes it different is how you manage it. Though it can be towards the correction of wrong behaviours, promotion of social justice, communication of negative sentiment and grieviences, yet it is neither necessary nor a sufficient condition for aggression.

Talking about YOU

"Every victory comes in time, work today to change tomorrow
It gets easier, who's to say that you can't fly
Every step you take you get, closer to your destination
You can feel it now, don't you know you're almost there?

Who holds the pieces to complete the puzzle?
The answer that can solve a mystery
The key that can unlock your understanding
It's all inside of you, you have everything you need yeahhhh

Keep the dream alive don't let it die
If something deep inside keeps inspiring you to try, don't stop
And never give up, don't ever give up on you."

Amazing lines from the song "Never give up" of the great singer Yolanda Adams.

Talking about "YOU". Every step YOU take...the key lies inside of YOU...so YOU don't give up. How can YOU be incharge when YOU are not being YOU?

No wonder Tich Nhat Hanh quotes "To be beautiful means being yourself..." The questions you should always ask to keep living consciously still remain: Is this really what I want to be doing? Is this what is right for me? Align you actions with your intentions. Doing what is right for you does matter, your happiness is a priority.

Rhetoric!

Don't you realize that what your mind cannot conceive you cannot have it?

Be that "one"

Be that "one".

by Chinma Juanita O

Do you not know that
those who run in a
race all run, but "one"
receives the price?
In life you only get to
run once, so run to win.

To avoid stumbling or
losing your place, don't look back.
You can't change the past,
but thank God
you can learn from it
and leave it behind.

Don't be anxious
about the next lap,
focus only on the next step.
If u miss that,
you may fall & not get
up again.

Before you know it,
you'll soon have more laps
behind you than ahead of you,
so make every lap count.

We spend our strenght
extinguishing fires that if left alone,
would burn out on their own.
Time is your most valuable resource.
Save it & you've increased your
assets & decreased
your liabilities.

There are enough painful trials in life:
why endure the ones you can lay aside.
Lay it aside & run. "Be that one"

It's sad!

That the people we love the most are often the target of our hurtful words. But even when we feel we've been provoked, we have a choice. Will we respond in anger or in kindness?

Realms

People do have free will. We are not robots. We make both good and bad choices. The choice to  Read, Write, Speak and Learn brings you to Realms: A field of Interest, a royal domain, a region, a community within which anything (on the realities of life and nation) occurs, prevails and dominates. Welcome to Realms