"The Five Love Languages" Explained

I think it’s time to compile some information on Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages. As I spend time on Personality Cafe, I seem to always stumble upon threads where members are trying to pin down traits as something that “all ISTJs do” or “all sx doms do.” In many of these circumstances, I feel like relationship questions can better be addressed by understanding the Five Love Languages.

Background
Most of us grow up learning the language of our parents, which becomes our native tongue. Later we may learn additional languages, but usually with much more effort. In the area of love, it’s similar. Your emotional love language and that of your spouse may be as different as Mandarin from English – no matter how hard you try to express love in English, if your spouse only understands Mandarin, you’ll never understand how to love each other.
Seldom do a husband and wife have the same primary love language. We tend to speak our primary love language and become confused when our spouse doesn’t understand what we’re communicating. Once you identify and learn to speak your spouse’s primary love language, you’ll have discovered the key to a long-lasting, loving marriage.
Determining Your Own Love Language
Either take the assessment here, or since you may be speaking what you need, you can discover your own love language by asking yourself these questions:
❤ How do I express love to others?
❤ What do I complain about the most?
❤ What do I request most often?

Forces that forster Unity

 

LOVE

The true proof of authentic Christianity is Love. Love is not a feeling, love is a law. Law has no feeling. You can't say "I don't love you anymore". What it simply mean is that there was no love from the beginning. Search your heart, tell yourself the truth. Love does not sympathize, it empathizes. Love is not words, love is an act-action. Talk is cheap. Love is no talk, love is not cheap. It cannot be bought nor sold. An enduring love is that which cannot be quenched. It is not flamboyant. It doesn't act to be noticed. Any love that has a reason is not love.

FELLOWSHIP

Fellowship determines influence, association determines destination. There is extreme power in the place of extreme fellowship. Fellowship which in "Greek is Koinonia, means communion, joint participation", It is the deepest and greatest kind of partnership. Having a union where different parts fit together properly and function well together. It makes way for success, prosperity, fruitfulness in companies, institutions and organizations.

CHOOSE LIFE

Surely you will live and live long, and live forever (1 peter 1:4-5) but it's up to you to...  

                                                                        

While you are living, help others choose life and not help them end it.

      There is no human being that is beyond redemption. Have faith in you, have faith in God. Even though a silver is lost, it does not loose it's...

Life slips by too fast and it's best not to spend a lot of time waiting for things to happen. You have to...

Instead of waiting to make all the money you want to make before starting that project, why not...

Instead of waiting for a job to come by, go search for one or better still create one.

Instead of waiting for him/her to be the first to say that four letter word, why not say it, mean it, act it, make it a decision...just

Instead of waiting to hear sorry before you can end the quarrel, why not take the lead, end it, say it...

Don't throwaway your values because he doesn't have one, know he can also learn from you.

Stop waiting for a miracle when you can be the miracle. Waiting is not bad nevertheless we can all do something rather than spend precious times waiting...

You can't help anyone when you are lost. To find someone, you have to find yourself. To put a light in a place, you need to carry enough light yourself.

Choices! Choose life! Be happy!

14:04:14 - THE DARK JOURNAL

Blind Widow: Why me, oh my pikin... keeping her gaze to the sky she asked God why didn't He take her instead? Lying next to her was the bread winner of the family - a 7 year old hawking in order to afford the daily bread for her blind mom and herself in almost unrecognizable look. Everyone around her couldn't fight the tears from falling.

Dumb Boy: (repeated blabbing and rapid hand movement) He witnessed the whole incidence from afar off and was struggling to tell the tale. No one understood his sign even though he kept at it, trembling in shock. Some minutes later, a junior student showed up and said he beckoning on his younger brother who was playing behind the buses that was engulfed by the explosion but now, he is no more.

Success Series III: Success Factors

Still on super success (III)
"This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shall meditate therein day and night, that thou may observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shall make thy way prosperous, and then thou shall make thy way prosperous, and then thou shall have good success" (Joshua 1:8).
I'm sure you know that success cannot hide itself, neither does it come by wishes. Success has no preference. It has no favorite skin color, state of origin; rather success takes the skin color of any who dares to pay the price! Success does not select people it; it's people that select success. "Behold, I and the children whom the Lord has given me are for signs and for wonders in Isreal from the Lord of hosts, which dwelleth in mount Zion" (Isaiah 8:18). 
Everyone that carries God has the capacity to succeed. As a light of the world, you are designed to command attention anywhere you are. It is not a gift but a result that answers to the operation of the Iron law of life - the Law of Cause and Effect, you have to make it happen. It obeys the law of sowing and reaping and requires effort. 

But why then do many believers fail today?
They refuse to realize that Salvation is only a platform to succeed but does not guarantee automatic success, it only gives you an edge to succeed. Success obeys a law therefore all that obey the law succeed, that's what proves your journey ends in good success.

What then are these success factors? 

• A Burning Desire: All success stories begin with a burning desire resident in the heart of man. Desire is the pacesetter for success. A burning desire is a motivation for action. Have you asked yourself how bad you want success? How much do you want it that you are willing to sacrifice for it? The extent of your achievement in life is determined by the intensity of your desires! Desire breeds hunger. As the rocket propellant is to a rocket engine so is desire to a man. If you so much desire it, you will behave it. A burning desire is reflective in your behaviors and attitudes in life. "One thing have i desired of the Lord, that will i seek after, that i may dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of my life, to behold the beauty of the Lord, and to inquire in his temple" (Psalms 27:4). "The proof of desire is pursuit"...Dr Mike Murdock. Nothing powers self discipline to attain success like a sense of burning desire.